ASSERTIVE, PASSIVE AND AGGRESSIVE COMMUNICATION

VIDEO TRANSCRIPT

I'll be discussing a different aspect of leadership today so one of the things that you must have heard of a lot would be being an assertive person always. Get things done in an effective manner. Being assertive is probably the most used statement for a leader in today's world. 

What does this actually mean?

ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION

I've heard this time and time again that it never grows old and I am here to say that this is really one of the most effective ways of communicating.

•  If you want to be a successful person 

• you want to run a company or 

• you want to be extremely good at your job, 

• you want to do well in your career, 

• Maybe you want to grow the way you speak makes all the difference.  

  
  So you might be very well qualified, you might be extremely professional and you might actually be someone who's friendly.  but if the words are not coming out in the correct way in an effective manner, you might be burning not only bridges but even affecting the success rate of your career.

FIRST IMPRESSIONS

A lot of times, especially from the recruitment time, I have seen that there are a lot of candidates who have so much potential who are so highly qualified and they have everything going for them. The only thing that brings them down is the fact that they are not able to communicate in an effective manner and be able to bring their thoughts across in a nice polite way. 

PASSIVE COMMUNICATION 

The other type of communication styles are submissive or passive way of speaking are people, who basically don't communicate effectively. Passive communicators tend to  hold back. They don't say things across in a clear manner, and they might actually not be able to communicate directly. They like to go along with decisions and not say anything to offend or take responsibility. 

What they might fear about offending somebody else is generally a passive speaker. 

For example, if somebody asks this particular person how they presented their topic or what they did with their work and a passive speaker response generally have statements like, 

“I don't know... 

I think it was kind of... okay... 

I liked what they said…. 

but I was not that sure about it.”

AGGRESSIVE COMMUNICATION

 An aggressive communicator is someone who makes the point known to you but does it in a very harsh or rude way. So, when a question was asked to an aggressive person, 

eg: “Hey, what do you think about that person's project? Or ‘What do you think about the work that that person does?’ 

The aggressive person will end up saying something like: 

 “I think they were absolutely horrible, they don't know a clue what they're doing.”  “They just have no time or idea, they just just sit around.”

 “I don't know how they even get where they are today, they're just absolutely horrendous.”

Then you literally sit and wonder, ‘Oh my god, if i ask this person a view about me they might say something equally or maybe worse.’ So this is a very common fear that is there especially when an aggressive person when you come across somebody who speaks aggressively is very direct not polite but being direct in a very rude way.

They are very opinionated and don't not care about others feelings and emotions. These are the kind of people you try to avoid right so you kind of see them. So now that you are aware of these styles, try to take the into account how you are communicating and change your approach. Make it more effective, take a few public speaking classes, these are great ways to improve them.