Career Woman -Pros Vs Cons

In my experience, discussing career vs homemaker is probably one of the most talked about topic. Everyone I know has an opinion about it, there were times when I was working and I was criticized for not focusing on getting married "Cough”. Then when I took a break from work to focus on my family and kids time, I was criticized for not working. So basically YOU CANT WIN! Its not possible. It would be interesting to understand what experiences you are facing and what else can we do as a culture to hopefully change it. Here we go..

WHAT ARE THE PROS?

FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE

Most important thing is the fact that you actually become more financially independent. It helps because you start having a routine. You can actually have things that are working for you in your way. It also helps to have some extra cash that you are bringing in for yourself. It gives you a sense of ownership. 

WORK ROUTINE

It creates a good work routine because you're used to doing things a certain way, and because you're working now, you organize your time better. You have this job that you need to focus on. You know what your routine is going to be like. You get more organized. You also focus on providing more and then maybe use a planner and get your things organized. It creates a good routine.

SOCIAL LIFE

Your social circle widens a lot as you get to interact with more people.  You have colleagues at work and get to travel and attend conferences, you meet new people. All these things add to building your circle of people that you get to know and the more that you work gives you opportunities to expand your circle. 

ROLE MODEL

This concept, I think, is more about how you feel about yourself because you would like your kids to look up to you or think that oh wow, you know you're building your career building your niche, so you're doing something for yourself. You're independent. This creates a kind of mindset for them as well to look up to you and respect you so much more and.just makes you feel good.

PARTNER SUPPORT

This is something I'm very grateful for because I think if you have to run your home and work, you need that support coming from your family or partner. They're there for you take the load of work and kind of manage it between the both of you becomes very important and think that value comes up more especially when you're working because you depend more on each other and that's good I think it's healthy and that takes away pressure from you as well isn't it so that support system is very good 

MINDSET

I think it builds and creates a positive mindset as well as makes you feel much more confident. I think it's a mind shift also because it helps feel happier. What are you actually feeling? When you are financially independent, it creates more security. You feel stronger, you feel more resilient. 

HERE ARE THE CONS:

FAMILY TIME

Now obviously when you're working, it becomes difficult to actually give time to your family, so that's one of the biggest cons I feel because you don't get the chance to work and be able to see them attend all the events. Special occasions there events,so spending time with your kids, gets very limited. 

EXPENSES

The expense will definitely go up only because what starts happening is because you're at work, you might not be able to be physically present for kids. So if you are not able to take care of your kid, then your required to put them in daycare or get a nanny. And then I've seen instances of just friends spending like half their salaries. That would tell me sometimes on these facilities to take care of you, not sick kids or whatever, so it's not always possible to family to help you out. So definitely expenses go up. 

MOM GUILT

I think the mom guilt is real and you feel that you are not there when you want to be there for them and they're not able to give 100% to your family and you need to break up your time between your work and career so that takes over and you feel like no matter what you do, there's something missing or you're not doing enough. So that's definitely the Mom guilt syndrome is what I call it. This is when you just constantly doubt yourself you feel that your not doing enough, or doing your best. These doubts keep creeping up because as human nature its normal to feel this way.  

BURNOUT

If you're one of those perfection moms, for sure, I think you must be feeling burnout where you're constantly wanting to catch up and do everything and be perfect about whatever you do, so you constantly are not. Give myself any rest time or any down time. You just focus on getting things done more effectively, which is going to just affect your health in the long run. Then your mental state gets bothered as well and you might feel exhausted so it's not really the best way of handling things but this definitely is one of the biggest problems I think from working mom.

In conclusion, there is always going to be someone who has opinions about whatever you are choosing to do and will either support you or negate you. You cannot waste your life worrying about what they are saying or doing. It will only cause you more distress. So today I thought, in this video I would breakdown the pros and cons of a working mom and wanted to hear your take on it too.

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